“A good wife is Royal in Heart. She is a crown to her husband, and pride to the home where she was raised. She is called a W.I.F.E. because she is a Woman In Full Effect.” - Olaotan Fawehinmi.

Procrastination is a big enemy of accomplishing our big goals. Learn how to become motivated enough to defeat it. Everyone is motivated when they have a good idea. At some point along the way, people lose motivation. They spend too much time procrastinating and not enough time making decisions. They settle into a life of mediocrity disguised as conformity, never finding any meaningful work that fires them up.

Fitting in is the most comfortable form of failure there is, and it is the direct result of a lack of motivation. The challenge many people face is finding a compelling reason to act. Finding motivation is hard, but it’s necessary if you want to be like the successful people you idolize on social media.

Many Small Things Can Make You More Motivated If your basic needs are met and your peers are not pushing you to do better, you learn to accept ‘subpar’ as ‘normal’. In fact, you do not consider it as subpar. It is just a way of life.

It is so easy to get stuck in a rut of endless despair. When you have endless entertainment, majoring on minors, and no one around you who works on a daily basis, it is hard to get motivated. If that is your situation, that is right. Maybe you want better than what you see around you. If you do, you have come to the right place. Instead of watching the life of your idols, you want to have that life instead. And to make that happen, you need to replace your procrastination and daydreaming with motivation and action. If you can do this, nothing can stop you.

Just like our guest on today’s Amazon, Lady Dunkwu Joy Anwuli, nothing can stop her again in living the life’s of her dreams because she has paid her dues.

Whenever you felt like calling it quits, these are the some of the tips and tricks you should use to get the fire going and go back after what you want out of life.

Success is the best revenge and getting that revenge is the best way to get motivated. There are some people who do not think you can do anything and that you will amount to nothing. These are the people who think that you AND your dreams are useless, unrealistic, and likely to fail. They think you are a joke and your plans are a game.

Proving these people wrong is powerful and liberating. When people pass you, reject you, or view you as less than capable, your success reminds them of the mistake they made. Revenge may be a dish best served cold, but it is also a hot fuel that can drive to success.

My best takeaway from this interview with Lady Dunkwu, was when she said and I quote: “Become the best version of yourself to attract the people you want. The magic is that self-improvement leads to confidence, which leads to attraction to people with common values or shared goals”.

Dear readers, enjoy the excerpt of the online interview I had with her where she shared varied areas of interest with me.

IAS: May we meet you, Madam?

Today’s Amazon: I’m Lady Dunkwu Anwuli Joy (Nee Obiazikwor). My parents are Mr. and Mrs. Charles Obiazkwor from Idumesah in Ika North East Local Government Area of Delta State. Though my mom is late. I missed her dearly. But my dad is alive and healthy. I was born and brought up in Agbor. I am married to Hon Chamberlain Nnamdi Dunkwu from Ute Okpu also in Ika North East Local Government Area of Delta State. My husband is presently, the Special Assistant to the Speaker of the Federal house of Representative, Rt Hon Femi Gbajabiamila, on Members Affairs. Currently, I’m a Senior non-teaching staff of Federal College of Education (Technical) Asaba, Delta State.

IAS: How was your upbringing like?

Lady Dunkwu: It was very wonderful. I grew up in a lovely Christian home with strong Anglican foundation. I enjoyed playing with my siblings and my mates at home. Life was very calm and peaceful then.

IAS: Which Primary School did you attend?

Lady Dunkwu: I attended Alasi Primary School from 1988 – 1994

IAS: Which Secondary School did you attend? Lady Dunkwu: I was briefly at the Marymount College, Owa, before I left for Edaiken Grammar School, Okhuaihe, Benin City, Edo State where I eventually finished in 2000.

IAS: What was your first career choice?

Lady Dunkwu: Banking. As a child, I admired the Banking profession so much.

IAS: Why?

Lady Dunkwu: Their working environment and their dressing code. Above all, I see them as very smart people.

IAS: Tell us about your tertiary education Lady Dunkwu: Ok

  1. BSc, Business Management, Ebonyi State University, Abakaliki 2007
  2. Associate Member, Chartered Institute of Treasury Management 2015
  3. Associate Member, Chartered Institute of Public Management of Nigeria 2018.

IAS: Tell us about your work experience

Lady Dunkwu: I presently work with the Federal College of Education (Technical) Asaba, Delta state.

IAS: what is your favourite quote?

Lady Dunkwu: Psalm 91. He who dwells in the shelter of the most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust” … “Because he loves me”, says the Lord, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name. NIV

IAS: Who is your role model?

Lady Dunkwu: Hon Chamberlain Nnamdi Dunkwu, my beloved husband.

IAS: Tell us the various social groups that you belong to

Lady Dunkwu: I do not belong to any social group I only belongs to religious groups in my Church.

  • Member, Ruth group in St Philip Anglican Church, Asaba
  • Member, Santuary group, When Women Pray International (WWP), Abuja.

IAS: Any awards?

Lady Dunkwu: Yes. I’m a Lady Knight of St Christopher of the Anglican Church.

IAS: What is your favourite Book?

Lady Dunkwu: The Holy Bible

IAS: What is your favourite City?

Lady Dunkwu: Abuja.

IAS: Do you have any side hustling? As in any business you run to support your family financially.

Lady Dunkwu: No. I am contented of being a simple Civil Servant, a good wife to my husband and a good mother to my children.

IAS: Any political ambition for now?

Lady Dunkwu: No

IAS: What is your philosophy to giving?

Lady Dunkwu: As a Christian, I see giving as a way of life.

IAS: How is marriage life?

Lady Dunkwu: Very blissful. I’m married to my best friend. A very lovely and caring husband (Hon Chamberlain Nnamdi Dunkwu). The marriage is blessed with three lovely kids.

IAS: What is your ‘Nextlevel’?

Lady Dunkwu: My ‘Nextlevel’ is in the hands of God.

IAS: Nice talking with you. And Happy Birthday in advance!

Lady Dunkwu: God bless you, my brother.


We at Ika Amazon Series is very delighted to have this online interview session with Lady Dunkwu Anwuli Joy, as our guest of the week on this platform. We opted for this mode of interview in order to maintain social distancing and stay at home order of the State Government as a result of the global pandemic (COVID-19) threatening the entire human race. It is our honest prayers, that this pandemic should be defeated in no distance time and to the glory of God and to the benefit of mankind. Lady Dunkwu, is an intelligent, smart, sharp and goal oriented woman. She is a fashionista. A role model and an Amazon from Ika Nation. Her simplicity is her greatest strength!


© Ewere Okonta